Module 3: View Of Self as a Parent
Module 3 of the Parents Under Pressure program aims to help
parents find and believe in evidence of their parental
Many parents who are in contact with child protection agencies or drug and alcohol services feel as though they have failed in their parenting role. Bringing about a shift in this negative view of self as a parent requires time and support.
The module includes exercises that help the parent believe "I am a good parent". Parents are helped to understand that no one is a perfect parent. The concept of the good-enough parent is useful here. Specifically, a good-enough parent is one that helps a child develop to their potential (physically, socially, emotionally, behaviourally, and cognitively).
Parents may have unrealistic expectations of their child and expect greater maturity than the child is capable of. An important component of this module is to find out whether the parent's expectations of their child are realistic.
Parents who have suffered adversity during childhood (abuse and neglect) are often very clear that they do not want their child to have a similar childhood but may not be able to provide alternative models of parenting. This module encourages parents to consider the impact of childhood adversity on their current parenting and to consider alternative strategies.
In addition to the specific exercises in this module, realistic goals are identified and worked towards throughout the PUP program. Part of the therapeutic process is to acknowledge that each step towards goal attainment provides evidence that the parent has the strength to make meaningful changes.